How to Care for Yourself and Others While Grieving
Once upon a time I worked as an outpatient dietitian and most of my clients were diabetic. A client came in one day who had great lab values indicating really well managed diabetes. I asked him how long he had been diabetic and he said over 15 years. At this point, I’m confused as to why this client needed to see an RD for diabetes education, so I asked, “what are you looking to learn from this session today?” He replied, “My wife passed less than a year ago and she used to manage my blood sugar for me. I don’t remember anything and I don’t know how to do this.”
This is just one example of how loss and grief can impact nutrition and health. As a clinical dietitian now, I see patients every day who are so deeply impacted by loss that they completely lose their appetite or forget to eat. In clinical nutrition terms, depending on other factors and measures, this leads to a diagnosis of malnutrition which is a precursor for various health complications. The body can’t function properly without sufficient intake of food to nourish and support daily functions!
Eating, for the grieving person, may be harder for various reasons:
Hunger and fullness cues may be disturbed. It’s normal for hunger and fullness cues to be impacted by times of high emotion. Think about the last time you were upset - did it impact your hunger and fullness cues?
Less motivation to make meals & nourish. For some people, making meals is an act of love and something to be shared. Imagine this: if you lost the person you used to make/eat all of your meals with, it could be harder to return to that practice after loss.
Loss of income and resources. If the person who passed was the breadwinner, that loss of income could make it much harder to meet your bodies needs.
Lack of food preparation skills. Like in the example I shared in the beginning of this post, it can be daunting to have to learn how to cook for yourself after you didn’t for a time.
Preoccupation with grief, forgetting to eat. This is all too common. Sometimes grief can be so intense that it occupies all of your mind and suddenly, food doesn’t seem important or appealing.
Tips For the Human Grieving
Grief can be debilitating. It can seem impossible to care for yourself after loss. Here are ways to take care of yourself during those times:
Plan ahead. If you do cook, make enough to refrigerate and/or freeze for future meals
Shop smart. Buy convenience foods(frozen meals, frozen veggies, canned goods) to have on hand that require little preparation for the times where you’re feeling unmotivated to cook.
Have a back up. Nutrition shakes shouldn’t necessarily be a go - to for all your meals, but they do great in a pinch! If you can’t imagine eating anything at this time, a nutrition shake with protein and carbohydrates can support you.
Stock up. Have canned beans, frozen fruits and veggies, and easy prep meals on hand at all times.
Accept help. If someone offers to come cook for you or prepare a meal and drop it off, let them!
Tips For How to Support the Human Grieving
One BIG way people support those who are grieving is by preparing food for them. This is SUCH a great gesture and could be the difference between this person we love eating a meal or not!
Make it easy. Give food in containers that they do not have to return to you. Trying to coordinate which dish goes back to who can be daunting! It can also be helpful to pack food in servings of 1 or 2 per container for easy access.
Make it nutritious. Level up your next casserole or soup by doing including these 3 things:
Carbohydrates: pasta, noodles, rice, or any other grain
Protein: Chicken, steak, tofu, beans, cheese
Color: fruits and veggies
The next time someone you know is grieving, you know how to support them as best as you can with food! If you are that someone grieving, know that taking care of yourself is still so, so important. It may not feel like it now, but doing your best to take care of yourself now WILL pay off in the future.
Elevate your spring and summer BBQ menu with this delicious and satisfying Prosciutto Pasta Salad recipe. Packed with roasted red peppers, parmesan cheese, fresh veggies, and a tangy dressing, this easy-to-make dish is perfect for any occasion. Learn how to create this crowd-pleasing pasta salad with our step-by-step guide.
Colostrum, the "liquid gold" supplement, is trending, but is it worth the hype? Learn about the benefits and limitations of bovine colostrum for adults based on current research. Discover the truth behind the marketing claims and make an informed decision about this popular wellness trend.
What’s something that fad diets have that you won’t find here? Well, to be honest, there are many things (LOL) restriction, strict rules, avoiding foods, etc. but the answer in this case is food additions! Nutrition Addition, let’s talk about it!
The sleepy girl mocktail has been making its rounds around TikTok, claiming to help you sleep easier and improve sleep quality. Let’s take a look at the ingredients and see if the talk measures up to the science!
Whether you are going for a run, lifting weights, or an athlete getting ready for a game or race, fueling your body properly is extremely important.
It seems like social media is always looking for ways to tear down or call specific foods bad for you. For the last few years, there have been so many negative articles about seed oils and how “toxic they are”. But are seed oils ACTUALLY bad for you? Let’s talk about it!
Metrics from activity on the app, Strava, expect that up to 80% of people make a resolution and abandon it before the end of January. What if instead of forcing yourself into a box of changes that may or may not be attainable and suitable for your lifestyle, you provided yourself space to grow, breathe, and find ways to better uplift and love yourself?
Many disordered eating behaviors have become so normalized that you might not even realize you are struggling, read on for some common normalized eating behaviors and why they are not normal at all.
As a busy college student, energy bites are a major staple food for me! They come together quickly, freeze well, and are VERY customizable. Packed with fiber and vitamin A, these energy bites are a tasty, no-bake, holiday treat for the whole family.
Step aside, Keto, because there is a new diet in town and it is even crazier than the last! Introducing: The Carnivore Diet
Metabolic Adaptation: maybe you’ve heard about it or read about it online. What is it? And why does it matter? Read on to learn more!
Whether you’re a college or professional football fan or if you just love a reason to tailgate and enjoy time with friends, these 5 tips may be helpful for you as you look to enjoy your time and continue to nourish your body!
Nine in ten US citizens consume caffeine. If you ask any college student or young adult, you would know that this is absolutely true. However, when is it time to put the energy drinks and coffee down? Let’s discuss!
In mid-July, a WHO subgroup released a statement about aspartame and its relation to cancer risk. This has been a source of confusion and worry for many. Let's clear things up!
My Relentlessly Judgmental Eyes is a body image poem about the journey to body acceptance.
Certain fruits and veggies grow during certain times of the year, so each season comes with a new variety of produce. Here are three reasons you should eat in season!
If you are on social media, you know that cottage cheese has been recently trending in every recipe possible.
A theory about why weight loss is hard for some people has been making its rounds around the internet. This theory is called Set Point Theory.
Find the perfect workout for YOU with this post.
A list of 10 intuitive eating books that will help you develop a happy and healthy relationship with food and body.
With cookout season in full swing, salsa is making its yearly comeback as a delicious summer snack.
A list of 12 books that will help your child or teen develop a happy and healthy relationship with food and body.
Dietetics student Emma Sommers shares her health story, what it’s like having a feeding tube in college, and what she’s learned.
Despite what you may have heard, sodium isn’t scary and low sodium snacks don't have to suck!
Hey, I'm Chelsea!
I’m a 200-hr yoga instructor, cat mom, and soon to be RD! As HSH Office Manager I love all things intuitive eating + movement and I’m glad you’re here! Learn more about me and the HSH offerings here.
Discover the #morningglowmocktail, a delicious and sleep-enhancing drink featuring tart cherry juice, a natural source of melatonin. Learn how to make this easy mocktail and improve your sleep quality during #bettersleepmonth. #sponsored by Tart Cherry Industry. #ustartcherries